Happy Birthday Talitha
Talitha Mae Haefs
May 20, 2013
21inches 9lbs 4oz
Talitha Mae Haefs
May 20, 2013
21inches 9lbs 4oz
I awoke at 5:45am to my wife telling me she was in labor and immediately I knew…this was not the same as before. Sure it was our third kid, but something in her voice said that was irrelevant. This morning was sure to be full of surprises. And, why wouldn’t it be? This entire pregnancy had not been anything like the other two.
Intense labor pains began to set in, and by the time we got to the van, I knew we had to hurry. As I climbed in the driver’s seat, Holly began to get into the back when a strong contraction hit! She grabbed onto the side of the van and spoke to me in a voice I had never heard come out of my wife before, “Jonathan! We are gonna have this baby NOW!!!”
She made it into the car, and the scene became something you would picture happening only in the movies. I threw caution (and the law) to the wind as I ran stop signs, doubled (even tripled) the speed-limit, and raced through Homewood. I must give props to the folks at Toyota…the Sienna is a mini-van with some real get-up and go power!
Throughout the drive, my foot grew heavier as my wife’s extreme pain became more apparent…via volume. This was different. Holly was able to receive pain medication with the first two and wanted to go natural with this one…natural would be the only option at this point.
I zoomed into a parking spot and rushed her upstairs as fast as I could. We didn’t fill out paper work or go through any normal protocol…there wouldn’t even be time for an IV. We were rushed straight into a room where the nurses tried to keep Holly from pushing until the doctor could arrive.
He made it, but barely.
Her water broke at 6:55am and just 22 minuets later, Talitha Mae Haefs made her way into the world at 7:17am.
Going through labor alongside my bride with no pain medication was a whole new experience. Never before had I seen her or another human being in such pain…and I’ve witnessed some pretty painful events in my day (just ask my brother). I felt so helpless, so lost, so useless as she thought her whole body was about to break.
During those minutes that felt like days, Genesis 3:16 went through my mind over and over, “I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children.”
Scripture was alive in the room with me.
I thought I had always understood this verse…understood why God determined that children should come into the world through pain. You see, as a result of sin, all humans have come under the judgment of of God and deserve death. We experience death gradually through pain and ultimately as our life expires.
I always thought that children were born through much pain as a reminder to us that every human comes into a world of pain, through pain, under the judgment of God. Every new life will experience pain and death in this world for we are all children of wrath by nature. I still believe that is true, but it is only half the truth. It is only half the reason for the pain in childbirth.
As I encouraged my wife through immense pain, the moment finally came…Talitha was here. In that moment…pain lost.
There was not only sheer relief, but extreme ecstasy and joy! The room filled with laughter, and my wife broke into a full on smile! This was the truth I had missed concerning pain in childbirth…
The pain ends and life wins.
Pain is not the last word of Genesis 3:16. The last word is life! “In pain (first word)…you shall bring forth children (last word).” You will go through incredible, unbelievable pain, but through this will come new life!
This is a small picture of the Gospel itself! Jesus Christ took all of our sin and its consequences of pain and death upon himself on the cross. He went through immense, incredible, intense pain (first word)! But, he rose from the dead (last word)! Through his death comes new, ultimate life.
The pain ends and life wins!
Pain and suffering are a guaranteed part of this life, but it is also guaranteed that they have ultimately been defeated by Jesus! And, just like in the delivery room where there came a moment when my wife and baby were delivered from pain to joy…so also will there be a moment for every believer in Christ when we are delivered from all trials into the everlasting arms of our father!
The pain will end and life will win.
For this reason, we can victoriously endure! Think about it like this…God gloriously designed the female body to endure birth pains for the joy that is set before them…so also, he has provided the power and grace for us to endure for the joy set before us! For a mom, birth pains lead to new life. For a believer, suffering leads to eternal life!
Suffering serves God’s glory and our good! Therefore ,we are MORE than conquerors when we suffer! Because Jesus not only guarantees that we will have victory over suffering (that makes us a conqueror), but victory in the midst of suffering for it serves our purposes to bring us to him (that makes us MORE than conquerors)!
Through suffering, we will know life…through death, we will know resurrection…because the pain will end and life will win.
Through Talitha’s birth, Jesus has taught me this truth ,and he will always remind me of it simply through her name. Talitha is Aramaic for “little girl.” It comes from chapter Mark 5 where Jesus raises a little girl from the dead with the words, “Talitha cumi,” which means, “Little girl, get up.”
When Jesus speaks, death loses.
The name Talitha reminds me that God is in the business of calling forth life from death. He will bring us through pain and suffering by his power and grace, for his glory, and the joy will be ours! Everlasting joy that will overshadow all the pain.
As I go through suffering in life, Talitha helps me remember that Jesus is with me, working a miracle of resurrection for his glory and my good. Talitha helps me remember that pain is not the end and that death does not get the final word.
Talitha helps me remember that the pain ends and life wins.
Joy isn’t complete until it is shared.
God designed it this way, and we all know it through experience…even from the time we are kids. Just the other day I was working on my motorcycle when my son, Levi, came up to me and says look Papa! I lifted my gaze from grease and motor parts to see him holding…a dead opossum.
I immediately freaked out and insisted, “Levi! Put that down right now…no…wait just a second (I pulled out my cell phone to take picture, click)…ok, now put that down!” I knew I would want photo evidence of this event for his mother. When you look at the picture, he has a very funny look on his face. It is actually the expression he makes when he is about to cry.
You see, he had come up to me so excited and wanted me to share in his joy, but I had the opposite reaction…I crushed his joy! Yes…I know…I’m the father of the year.
Ignore my lack of parenting skills for a moment and see the point…joy longs to be completed by being shared.
You can see this in all sorts of everyday experiences. Kids bring you their favorite toys and sing their praises because they want you to praise the toys too! When you like a movie, you watch it again with people that haven’t seen it just so you can turn and see their reactions. A couple in love constantly tell one other just how much they love each other! Why? Why do we do all these things? It’s because our joy is not complete until it is shared.
Solitary enjoyment can never match shared enjoyment.
As Christians, we are to find ultimate, everlasting joy in God through Jesus. This is the very essence of worship…joy in Jesus! Yet, we often miss is the truth that we so naturally understood as children…that joy is not complete until it is shared! We try to make worshipping Christ and finding joy in him a completely private matter…the pursuit of a personal relationship. But, private joy will never be complete until it is publicly proclaimed!
Praise without proclamation is incomplete praise. Worship without mission is incomplete worship. Unshared joy is incomplete joy.
Joy in Jesus is not complete until it is shared!

This truth is all over the Bible! In John 3:29-30, many people are leaving John the Baptist to follow Jesus and John reacts by saying, “The one who has the bride is the bridegroom. The friend of the bridegroom, who stands and hears him, rejoices greatly at the bridegroom’s voice. Therefore this joy of mine is now complete. He must increase, but I must decrease.”
John basically says, “I’m like the best man at a wedding and Jesus is the groom. I was never meant to have the spotlight. My joy is in Jesus having the spotlight. I have proclaimed him so that others would go to him! Others sharing in joy in Jesus makes my joy complete!”
Paul basically says the same thing in Philippians 2:1-2, “So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind.”
Paul’s joy is made complete when he sees those to whom he ministers enjoying Christ together, being unified in Jesus, encouraged, comforted, and having affection for one another in Christ!
The apostle John says something similar in 3 John 4, “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.” For John to hear that the people to whom he has proclaimed Jesus are seeking Jesus, living for Jesus, and finding joy in Jesus…that gives him the greatest joy! It completes his joy!
Our joy in Christ finds completion when it is shared by others. I think this is clearly seen when we overlay the end of Luke’s Gospel and the beginning of Acts. Both books were written by Luke, and he stitches them together by telling the same story to close the Gospel and open Acts…the ascension of Jesus. In his Gospel, Luke shows us that Jesus’ ascension produces joy-filled worship in his followers. But, in Acts he reveals how the ascension propels the disciples to joy-filled proclamation.
By telling the same story with different emphases Luke helps us see that finding joy in Christ is not the end of the story, but only the beginning (that’s why there’s more to write after his Gospel)…for that joy erupts from our mouth in proclamation (which is what we see in Acts). Like a kid holding a opossum, we naturally want someone to share in our joy. We’ve found joy in Jesus and want the world to share in it! We worship Jesus and believe he is worthy of all worship…so we have a mission!
Our worship drives us to mission!
Our praise drives us to proclamation!
And, the goal of all our sharing, our mission, and our proclaiming is that others might share in the joy, worship, and praise! That is what makes our joy complete!
For all who truly worship Jesus, we have been called to share the joy we find in him with others…to the very ends of the earth. Our joy will not be complete until it is shared by people from every tribe, every nation, and every tongue. By the power of the Holy Spirit, let us be filled with praise that erupts in proclamation, filled with worship that inspires mission, and filled with joy that demands completion!